Lost the childishness?

I have been hearing a lot that today's children are not children anymore, they have become advanced than adults. Is it really so? Are they really losing the childishness in themselves? What is childishness?

Childishness is a behaviour of enjoying, having innocence, getting excited, getting emotional, finding love, taking interests, being unbiased, a true and pure soul, being a center of attraction, being frightened, forgetting every rudeness out of love and full of naughtiness.

What I think is, children do not lose their childishness. They have it in them always but nowadays the youth has covered it up with a curtain of show off. This show off is of superiority. Nowadays, children have a deep tunnel dug in their mind of being superior to everyone, they try to be better in front of everyone and in that struggle they lose their innocence. They have lost patience, they cannot afford to see themselves down from others be it an adult or their age group. It is because everbody is trying to be so. They have developed a nature of competitiveness in themselves. 

Why are they doing so? Is it because adults have also become same as they are? Adults around children should act according to children to let them be so. Nowadays children are lacking motivation in their lives. They are adults who will have to encourage kids to be kids and let not grow adulthood in themselves at a very early age. Adults are well aware of the nature of a child and they should not destroy the environment of childhood of their children. Adults should keep on motivating their child for things they do correct and should show the right path for things they do wrong. We should keep them on learning the moral values of life and let them stick to be a true and pure soul instead of indulging them into chaotic situations where the adults should deal with. I'm not saying to not let children think more than their age but they should be thinking only appropriate things. This can be developed in them if adults act appropriate infront of them so that negative things do not come to their mind. They are pure and immature soul, appreciation to their right options can make them more confident. Wrong will be what they don't know, and that should be corrected only with love and understandings. 

I have 5 younger brothers, all younger to me. Aman of 15, Irfan of 15, Rehan of 13, Junaid of 12 and Ahaan of 11 months. Junaid is my cousin I'll not include him into this topic, because he is physically disabled. Instead of any movement in his body and any words in his tongue, all I can see a childish smile at his face and his beautiful eyes admiring everyone around him. I would also not include Ahaan into this because he is very young to talk about. These 3, Aman, Irfan and Rehan are not adults yet for sure but let me tell you about them. Aman has now become a boy of his own wish disrespecting everyone. I'm the eldest daughter and child as well of my house but being the eldest son he thinks himself to be the most superior one and elder than me also. He thinks that he can take his decisions himself and even about me also. Whole day he is out with his friends and whenever asked to study he answers "you need not worry about it, focus at yourself", and sometimes answers back very disrespectfully. Earlier he was not at all like this. He used to be the most respectful child among all of us and the most silent and calmest one. But, he has changed drastically. I would always blame my parents for this. Earlier my mother used to sit with him the whole day, talking with him, playing with him, teaching him and give all her attention to him. As he grew up she started leaving him and less bothering. 

She does not tell him anything about whatever he does. If I complain she replies, "he will have to suffer for whatever he will do. Whom should I tell? Everybody is of their own wish, are you correct?" So in this way, she never corrects her son but always points back to me. My father has always been out of town for his work so instead of being aware of everything he doest not reciprocate. Aman also does the same thing, there's nothing like a child in him now. He even has the guts to tell mom that he has 14 girlfriends. Can you imagine! He's just 15 year old boy and mon entertains it as well. Irfan is my cousin. He does not consider himself to be an adult or to be superior. He does not respect anyone except me, my father and my mother. He obeys us but it's the opposite with his parents and rest all the family members. He is like nobody should scold him or stop him for doing anything he wishes. If you tell him 5 he will reply 50 out of anger. He does not consider his mother to be anyone but she is very supportive to him. He is just busy with his girlfriend in his life. He remains quiet but he does a lot of things at his mind. He does not have any interaction with our family members, only his girlfriend and friends are his life. When he was younger then he was considered the most naughtiest boy of DPS. Everybody knew his name by his mischieves. Though, he was very naughty, weak in studies but the childishness and innocence reflected on his face clearly. That's even acceptable from a child but that naughtiness is also lost in him. I'll say that he has become like this because of his environment. From his childhood he used to stay with my mother only, Aman and Irfan used to be together. But as he got separated from us for 4 years, he changed. His mother does not stop him from doing anything saying, "my one son is physically disabled and now I only have Irfan, I don't want him to stop for anything, he is my only hope." Getting this opportunity Irfan has become of his own wish and cannot tolerate anyone against himself. He got influenced about girlfriends and friends from my uncle's. I have got 11 uncle's and my father is the eldest one among all the 12 brother's so it's obvious that most of them are very young. Leaving 3 uncle's after my father rest all are involved with their college friends and girlfriends. Aman and Irfan hears them always talking about their own personal affairs at home. If Aman and Irfan are told anything about these matters their answer is, "they are also doing why aren't you telling them anything?" So nobody can tell anybody for anything. Rehan, is the only boy in our house in whom we can find childishness. He is little different from all of us. He is satisfied with whatever he gets. Really very naughty, innocent, lies to save himself, fights with us, plays with me and my uncle's, a fan of Broklesner of WWE, talks very childish and laughs and speaks without understanding. But, I don't want him to change like the other 2 because of my mother's carelessness. I really feel that both Aman has become so because of her carelessness and Rehan is at the verge. She has stopped looking after him and his studies also. I make her understand to look after them and see what they are doing, teach them but it's of no use.
I'm 17, not an adult yet. I would consider myself to be somehow like Aman and a bit like Rehan. Honestly, I'm very rude to my parent's when they donot agree with me in my decisions. I know it's very wrong, but I'm patient enough to make them understand about what I think and why so but it becomes intolerable for me when they donot understand my concerns even after my brief explanations and patience. Somehow, I had started speaking very less to my every family member since a year. And, I am bothered about my brother's future but I have stopped telling about them also since a month. I have my own concerns that also I keep it with me because I have become tired of arguing with anyone. You can say that I also do not have any sign of childishness. I agree with it, because I am short tempered and I tell anything to anyone when I'm angry. I have felt this after realising a lot of things and I'm on the voyage of changing of myself. Yes, I do not speak at any adult matters now, I just hear and keep quiet. When I was younger, till 15, I feel that I had a childishness in myself at that time. I loved to crack jokes, laugh with others, enjoy, entertain, make fun, play with water and mud, dance in the rain, jump in the pot holes, enjoy the breeze, play with friends, fight with others. You know, I also loved playing fights with my brother's and uncles like Rehan. I was so childish that I used to fight for that 1 piece of chicken leg with my uncle's and my father, I used to fight for eating the egg yolk with them and faught with my brother's for sleeping besides my father. I lost all of these because as I grew up my parents considered all my activities as a behaviour of an uncultured girl. They went on pushing it in my mind that I'm such a big girl and seeing me doing these kind of activities people will laugh at them and tell me a bad girl. So, slowly I left doing all those activities which I enjoyed. Now, I realise that all those told to me were bulshits, my activities were actually my childishness which I had to give up. After I have realised, I think I have again got that innocence back in myself. I have again started jumping in the rain, fighting with my brother's and uncle's, to fight with my uncle's for the chicken leg piece, for the egg yolk, playing games, enjoying the breeze, entertaining everyone at my house, cracking jokes with them and just started enjoying whatever I like. I have started learning football from Irfan every morning sharp at 5'o clock. I have started going out of my house at evening and play wildly with all my brother's and uncle's. I have again started going to the parks and swinging in the swings, trembling at the see-saw. I have started bathing directly from the water in the tanks. I just now don't bother about anyone, neither my parents nor the people outside. I have again started enjoying my life being a child and it's giving me a lot of happiness and satisfaction to my heart. Instead of all these, nobody around can see the child back in me.
I hope my brothers would also realise this very soon and want my mother to open her eyes and guide them thinking of their future. I also want my family member's to change themselves and the environment of the house so that the children remain children. One day they are going to miss and regret for their children, for us.
I really want to request the parent's to support their child to be a child. You don't know what happiness and satisfaction your child gets out of those acceptable mischieves they do. You might not get the chance to see that innocence in your child again, once they lose it. The youth needs the innocence so that the future does not regret with the duplicity, manipulative generation, trickery people and stone hearted selfish people.
With this I conclude that only innocence can let everyone think the good for ownselves and others as well. And, this innocence can only be found in childishness so do not let it go out of your and your child's reach.