Hello! Today I have come up with a blog describing incidences which took place within the past few weeks in my eye sight. Well, it is hard for me to believe that today also we will be able to see or hear such incidences so closely. I am gonna write the whole blog in 3 parts, each part describing one case and finally I'll be coming to the conclusion.
Case 1: I have 2 friends, Sheena and Happy, and we three make up a trio of best friends. Last week, Sheena had her birthday and she threw a grand birthday party to her friends in the joy of turning 18. We all assured that we were going to the party but Happy wasn't sure about it because of her family issues. Everytime we invite her at our get togethers but very rarely she manages to visit us. I and Sheetal, both are well-aware of her conservative family, they do not allow her to meet us. According to them, if she would go out and meet her friends, then she would become a disobedient, liberal, characterless and a clever girl. But still, we wanted her to join us becomes she completes our trio. Last time, she was beaten by her mother because she came to my house without seeking permission as she knew they would not permit ever. Then, her father promised her that he would allow her to visit her friends from the next time, her mother would herself go and drop her. Happy kept his promise in her mind. She tried to obey her parent's and did whatever they wanted after that, wishing her parent's would also think about her happiness.
This time, 5 days before Sheetal's birthday, Happy asked her parent's to allow her to go to the birthday party and they simply denied giving a reason that "we cannot be the same as the people in the society are, we have a different culture, different rules and regulations in our religion which does not permit girl's to go out and meet their friends or visit parties, if anybody gets to hear that my daughter is going to her friend's party then our reputation will be ruined". Well, this wasn't at all a good reason for Happy, because she is against these kind of thoughts. Happy questioned that what was wrong in it, her friend's house was not so far, she also asked her mother to come along with her to see what would happen there, she also said that why is it not the same with her brother's, they are younger then her and are never questioned for hanging out for the whole day with their friends and girl friend. He father told her not to compare herself with her brother's because whatever they would do would not have any effect on their reputation as they are boys. Happy hated this kind of mind set up and was frustrated hearing these. She decided not to go to the birthday party but also said that "even after being good to everyone, behaving well, obeying to my you both, does not make any difference then there is no use". She also added, "from today I would do whatever I wish to without bothering of what you both want, because I have understood you cannot change yourselves for us and would never care about our happiness". On hearing these, her father showered all his anger over her. He hit his 19 years old daughter like a ruthless man. He thrashed her face like anything with his slaps, he hit her hard with his leather belt, he kicked on the right side of her chest that she fell apart, he hit her backbone with his fist that the pain seemed to have a very severe injury, he stood over her neck throttling it with his feet wishing her to die, once again he stood putting his feet over her neck and Happy started wriggling out of suffocation, so her father's feet slipped off throttling her left ear and head when the weight of his whole body was into her face from one side. This left the left side of her face senseless and painful. He continuously screened that, "a daughter like her must be killed, I was wishing that God would not have given me a daughter because the day a girl becomes liberal she will ruin the reputation of our family". He also regretted of sending her to an English medium school because he believes if a girl is taught in an English medium school then she would be following the western culture. He said, "the education we have given has not made you girl who has shame in her eyes for her mistakes but has made you characterless.
On the other side, while she was getting beaten her mother stood still and was looking at her husband hit her daughter. Aunty had her own issues with uncle by which she thought that he does not have any love for his children. The next day she said to Happy, "I was watching that how much this man can be cruel to his own child". After all these were over, her father left for his work till the dusk fell, her mother was leaving for her paternal's house after having a short argument with uncle. Aunty asked Happy to come along with her but she denied and told her to go while she would follow after half an hour. Her parent's left, her brother was in his aunt's house, the younger one was in the hostel and Happy was alone in the house weeping her tears of pain. She was hurt badly and her mind was now controlled by the devil. She only knew one thing, that she won't be happy in a house between such people and there was no way to escape, so she decided to get rid of such a life. Being alone at home gave her the best opportunity to make her thoughts successful but fortunately Sheetal called her up for asking whether she was permitted or not. Happy denied coming to her party and just cried. Sheetal was always a very good supporter, convinced and motivator of her. Anyhow, she made Happy spill whatever happened and understood her intentions. She immediately called up her maternal uncle and informed him everything. Within 5 mins, her uncle reached her and prevented from happening something wrong. He took her to aunty. Her mother saw her face and noticed the left side of her face towards the ear that it had turned completely turned blood red. She saw the marks on her body of the belt. They stayed the night in her maternal uncle's place, everybody went to bed but Happy wasn't able to sleep due to extreme pain on her chest, head, left side of the face, left ear, the back bone and her swollen chicks. She could not sleep for the whole night and just shed her tears. Her mother and cousin elder brother sat besides her until she slept and early in the morning they called up a doctor. She had fever and too much pain, the doctor gave her medicines and two injections to reduce the pain.
Instead of all these, her father didn't even go to see her, neither asked how is her condition instead, he told aunty that "I don't want such a daughter, she will ruin our reputation in the society, this was nothing even it is required then I can even kill her, I am such a father".
So, this is the scenario in the present day in some houses. A rich reputed family, sends their daughter to the costliest English medium school of the city between hundreds of liberal children. The education given is all about making the youth independent, intelligent, successful, mature and specially teaching them about what is wrong and what is right. Inspite of this, they expect their daughter to live a life between conservative minded people of her family which is the toughest job for her. I can understand how suffocating she feels between them even if they are her parent's but today she wants to go away from them anyhow but she is helpless, just because of their thought process.
